Couples Counseling

It was a perfect picture…

A brand new couple getting married… a super exciting time.

Young, vibrant, debt-free. That’s right – neither bringing a cent of debt to the marriage.

In fact, their life together began with both love – and a tidy little nest egg of one million dollars in the bank.

Amazing, right?

It was, at first.

However, they made only withdrawals – never worrying or working to make any deposits.

Life was easy. Resources seemed abundant – but not enough for the long haul. It would never last forever.

The fun was bound to end; eventually, they went broke.

Marriages are very much like bank accounts.

We must continuously make deposits to keep the relationship going.

The reality is this – no one enters a marriage “debt-free,” as the debt is the emotional baggage we brought with us to the relationship.

We all carry emotional baggage with us – messages and lessons learned from childhood, hurt and pain from previous relationships, and our own internal conflicts and challenges.

Until we have learned to process our past, it will continue to affect our current relationship.

Although it’s rare to see a new couple start off with a million dollars –

We know that even that is not enough.

A healthy relationship requires work and effort to keep it alive.

Couples counseling helps you invest wisely in yourself, in your partner, and in your relationship.

I can help both of you develop clarity on the “deposits” your partner needs – to keep your relationship not only solvent but to help it flourish.

Every couple is different.

Together, we’ll explore what you can do, as partners, to keep each other feeling secure – well taken care of, and satisfied.

You and your partner will learn ways to give to each other and build up your emotional intimacy. That feeling of closeness – of being truly understood and cared for by your partner – is the glue that will hold your relationship together for the long term.

Counseling guides you back to a place where you can build a wealth of strong emotional connection.

Marriage today is complicated, multifaceted.

You have to manage the business part – your finances, your home, your kids.

But you also have to keep up with the relationships – to integrate both your extended families and organize your social activity calendars and obligations. It’s difficult.

At its core, you need a solid friendship…

And you also need a sense of romance, fun, and laughter…

All too often, couples get bogged down on tensions and conflict in the business aspects…

Why does it always seem that romance gets shoved to the end of the line after everything else? Why must it be low priority?

You need alternative solutions that work.

You don’t need to continue to run around the same circles that have left both of you drained, frustrated, and bitter.

Not every disagreement needs to turn into a fight, and I can show you how to work through them and emerge even stronger.

I’ll help both of you learn how to change your paradigm of thinking about your relationship, so you can be open to learning new communication skills and more effective at conflict resolution.

I’ll show you techniques and solutions that can help you rekindle the joy and excitement you once felt toward each other.

After all, you chose each other.

Even when it’s tough.

Sometimes, it’s more intense than the already daunting stressors of marriage.

Betrayal. Trauma. Illness within the relationship. Parenting challenges. Fertility issues. Crazy relatives, financial pressures, and life transitions.

I’m here for you. I can – and will – work you through the toughest situations.

There’s hope for you, too.

Reach out to me today (973) 798-8680.

Your relationship can feel like your rock, your home, your safe place, your joy AGAIN.